"All Those Things That Seems To Oppose Your Goals Are Actually The Raw Materials for Achieving Them"

I just heard this saying.

"All those things that seems to oppose your goals are actually the raw material for achieving them."

I remember when i opened up my business years ago, i had a lot of trouble with the business. Even though it was making money, it didn't return as much money as i think it would. The problem was that I worked so hard yet there was little reward for my effort.

I thought they were not much money in the business. Eventually i worked for someone else (still am) and closed down the business. Having listen and heard about successful people, i now think i was wrong. If someone else is in the same business and making an extraordinary amount of money - then there was something wrong with the way i handle the business or didn't have the business fundamentals.

Simply put, I didn't have the right attitude. I see so many people that are in business that seems like there is not enough money in it, yet they become wildly successful in it. For example, one of my client who is a taxi-driver is a multi-millionaire.

Now i know what the problem i had before, i learn how to achieve my goals. The best way to learn is by your mistakes and by modeling someone much better than you.

What Would You Do If You Have Pancreatic Cancer And You Have 1% Chance of Living Within 5 Years?

I was listening to a Marketing expert today about achieving the best results in any field and getting what you want in life.

Almost everybody think this guy was a marketing genius because he was learning much faster than anyone else. But during this interview he said that he wasn't as smart as anyone else - he wasn't born a genius. He was like everybody else with an average IQ. Yet he was able to outperform everybody in his field.

How did he do it?

The answer seemed so obvious yet 95% of us missed it. He model what the very best people are doing and copied it. ie He found out why they were different from the other group, .....what makes them tick? ...what was there attitude like? ....what did they do they do differently compared to the other group?

So he gave this lecture to a group of students and asked them, "What would you do if you have pancreatic cancer where only 1% of people will survive after 5 years?".

Some of the student answered;

"I pray to God"
"I talk to the experts and find out as much as i can about the latest treatment"
"I enjoy my life to the fullest"
"read all the medical journals"

All of these questions were not wrong but they were not the best. None of the answers were not even close to what he was thinking. Every year he would ask this question and none of his student would answer correctly.

The answer to his question was this, "I would call up all the doctors that he knew about the cancer and asked them about what did that 1% that survived did." He would model the same thing what the 1% survivors did. For example, eating 10x a day, doing some sort of special exercise, asked them how they think/attitude, where did they live - did they live in the forest? He would get as much information as possible on the 1% survivors and copied their behavior.

If you want to be the best in any field, find someone that is the very best and model their behavior. It doesn't guarantee success, but the odds are in your favor.

If you want to be a successful tennis player, don't just ask your local tennis guy to teach you, learn from the very best - a tennis pro. If you want to learn Cantonese quickly, learn from someone who has learned it faster and fluently than anyone else - and copy their behavior.

It's all about your attitude to things. If you think you're too smart to do what this expert says - then i think you be losing a lot of wisdom. Learn from someone who is better than you. Let that fat big ego go.

End Rant.

The Things That Are True Are Not The Things That Thing That Most Of Us Want To Be True

I was talking to my friend today about female sexuality and the myths surrounds that.
He was talking about how most girls that you see (especially if they're innocent looking) are not as sexual compared to men. This is a huge misconception in my opinion. I think girls are just as sexual as guys but in a different way.

I'm not saying nearly all girls are wildly horny that wants to grab any cock they see.

I wish that was true though. It makes it easier on us guys. And some other girls likes eating carpet.

But anyway, my point was that my friend has misconception that most girls are not interested in sex at all. If you read any woman magazine such as Vogue or any other nonsense that girls read, you find that got a lot of articles/advice about sex. Just have a look and I guarantee that got more than 2 articles about sex.

I also bet you that these magazines have more articles about sex than men magazines such as FHM.

Then you read some of the other rubbish that they read such as Mills & Boon romance novels. You rather smash your head against the wall than read any of those. Basically these novels are female version of porn but with words only.

My point is that most of the things that are true are usually not the things most of us want us to be true because it collides or is against our existing belief system. We become so brainwash by TV, movies and friends that they are all sugar and sweet.

In fact, they are just as bad as guys. I had a client of mine who is a hairdresser, she was talking about how common women cheat on their husbands or lie about how much money they spend. It was totally unbelievable the stories that she told me.

If you're a female and think this is wrong, please post a comment and explain why it's not true.

End rant.

Why It's Important To Learn How An Asshole Feel

I was thinking the other day about one of my clients. A few weeks ago he wanted to see me to get his back fixed. He was in a little bit of pain and didn't bother checking out on the front desk and came bolting in my door.

"Hey mate, what's up? Are you free now?" He said without a care in the world.

Meanwhile, i was massaging somebody ass with her crack wide open (she was Muslim by the way, and anytime a man see her flesh, she has to pray to allah).

Anyhoo, I told him to get loss and go to the waiting room.

On the way out he boomed out "hey that women got a big fat ass hasn't she?"

Now I don't know how she reacted because her face was plastered down on the bed but i think i know how she feels. She probably was all red faced and probably prayed to god to put a Jihad on that guy.

Obviously, that guy was an inconsiderate asshole that shouldn't be allowed to live with any decent human beings.

But it got me thinking...

How the hell can he live with himself on this planet? But if you think simply, you get it.

This guy doesn't think he really is an asshole. He thinks he is a great and funny guy. He is misunderstood and if people think he did something wrong, then it's their fault. He made up a lot of things in his mind that can't be changed.

His mind is inflexible.

And the thing is.... everybody is somewhat rigid in their thinking. It is very easy to think we're always right and it's very hard for us to think we're wrong.

It's human nature.

People hate change. Actually they despise any changes - because we scared of it.

The only way to really persuade or change this thinking of this person is to at least 'walk in his shoes for a mile before judging him'. Once you know someone's thinking, you can rationanize his thoughts and explain it in his way.

If you read the book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People", this is what the book basically say to do.

So if you really want to influence people........ just walk in his shoes for a mile before judging him.

Ok, now think of someone that you know, someone he is too rigid or too stiff in their thinking and try to walk in their shoes. You be surprised how insightful you will be. You don't have to change your thinking or your beliefs.

Conversely, try to walk in someone else's shoe that is more successful than you. You might learn how far you limited your belief's or worldview are.

How To Be Cool

This is an awesome video on how to be cool. Learn and listen carefully

More Jesse Livermore Quotes

“With me I must back my opinions with my money. My losses have taught me that I must not begin to advance until I am sure I shall not have to retreat. But if I cannot advance I do not move at all. I do not mean by this that a man should not limit his losses when he is wrong. He should. But that should not breed indecision. All my life I have made mistakes, but in losing money I have gained experience and accumulated a lot of valuable don’ts. I have been flat broke several times, but my loss has never been a total loss. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be here now. I always knew I would have another chance and that I would not make the same mistake a second time. I believed in myself. A man must believe in himself and his judgment if he expects to make a living at this game.”

Awesome! I love his attitude. Never give up and don't hesitate!

“The game taught me the game. And it didn’t spare the rod while teaching.”

Haha!

"And right here let me say one thing: After spending many years in Wall Street and after making and losing millions of dollars I want to tell you this: It never was my thinking that made the big money for me. It always was my sitting. Got that? My sitting tight! It is no trick at all to be right on the market. You always find lots of early bulls in bull markets and early bears in bear markets. I've known many men who were right at exactly the right time, and began buying and selling stocks when prices were at the very level which should show the greatest profit. And their experience invariably matched mine - that is, they made no real money out of it. Men who can both be right and sit tight are uncommon. I found it one of the hardest things to learn. But it is only after a stock operator has firmly grasped this that he can make big money. It is literally true that millions come easier to a trader after he knows how to trade than hundreds did in the days of his ignorance."

Excellent!!!! If you really, really, really, want to know how to make big bucks - reread this 100 times. This applies to life as well. We see so many things on TV, newspaper about get rich quick schemes. I been in some of them and with other investments, such as property, if i just sit tight and wait, the big money comes when you're patient. A very simple concept but very, very hard to execute. You will find too many people who wants to get rich quick, while there are a few people that are patient and let the money comes to them.

Jesse Livermore Quotes

If you really want to learn about human psychological behavior. Study the stock market. A lot of people think that making money on the stock is all about market predictions and knowing the latest news.

If you currently/were investing in stocks, you found out that the most important factor of success is mainly your own self-control and your insight in market psychology.

I learned so much about myself when i was trading on the stock market years ago (and I haven't played it since then). I was reading several quotes by Jesse Livermore from a book that every investor should read, "Reminiscences Of A Stock Operator".

Here are a few golden quotes:

“If I hadn’t made money some of the time I might have acquired market wisdom quicker.”

This is so true. Important life lesson is learnt best when they cause pain or discomfort.

“There is nothing like losing all you have in the world for teaching you what not to do. And when you know what not to do in order not to lose money, you begin to learn what to do in order to win. Did you get that? You begin to learn!”

This is a very, very true. This applies to the stock market as well in anything in life. When you lose everything, it makes you smarter - you already know what to do to avoid being in the same situation.

“A stock operator has to fight a lot of expensive enemies within himself.”

Ouch. When I lose big, I lose self control - which means i going to gamble more- that means i going to throw away all my winning. Trying to fight your internal demons is damn hard.

“It takes a man a long time to learn all the lessons of all his mistakes. They say there are two sides to everything. But there is only one side to the stock market; and it is not the bull side or the bear side, but the right side. It took me longer to get that general principle fixed firmly in my mind than it did most of the more technical phases of the game of stock speculation.”

Wow! A great quote. With all these quotes, it can be applied in life as well.

How to Build Courage

A few days ago, one of my friends did one of the most uncomfortable thing he done in his life. I was proud of him. I'm not going to discuss it here to protect his privacy.

What he did was that he was planning to do that 'thing' within a month time. I was surprised that he did it a few days instead of a month or worse, never. If he acted later, he would had more sleepless nights, more worry and eventually his emotional state would negatively impact on other people as well.

He was courageous and just did it. When you become courageous, you automatically become confident.

You don't get courage from sitting on your ass all day, contemplating on how and why you should do it. He just did it. Full stop.

He picked the one thing that was the most uncomfortable and did that first. Not only did it kill off any procrastination, it built up his courage. Action cures fear. Even though it was painful for him to do it initially but it lifted up a huge weight off his shoulder.

So if you want to build up a courage, do the most uncomfortable thing first and don't hesitate - like the nike logo says - Just Do It.

The Secret of Selling

I was talking to one of my client a week ago. We were talking about life, her job and eventually she was talking about her son.

She told me that her son was a car salesman. She told me that he was so successful that the car manufacturer in Japan had his name stuck on their wall. He was selling on average, 39 cars a month. This is an average only, imagine how much he would sell on a good month and some salesman are lucky to sell 10 cars a month.

Immediately in my mind that I thought his son was a sort of mind reader or have some special mind powers that he could manipulate people. I was wrong. The secret that he had was not very obvious and counterintuitive.

The secret of his technique was that he is 100% honest with his customers. I was shocked. I thought you have to manipulate people in buying things they don't want.

If you are honest, you automatically create trust with that person. If you manipulate people, they will build mental barriers towards you. They can't trust anything what you say.

Building trust also means more word of mouth and more repeat business. Have you ever bought something from a person who promise your product to deliver certain results but didn't deliver? Would you go back to see that person again?

Conversely, if a salesperson sells you something and is honest and directly warns you that the product might break down and you might be disappointed with the product. Would you still go back to the same person?